“Rut” is probably one of the scariest three-letter words that I personally can think of. Besides “AAH!” But we all have ruts, and they seem to creep up in every single part of our lives. Don’t feel the same way about your partner anymore? Relationship rut. Can actually name the different kinds of greens in your lunchtime salad? Diet rut. Sit in the same cubicle stamping envelopes all day (even though you’ve got a ph.D in Microbiology hanging up at home)? Work rut. Buying the same garments, the same colours, the same shapes, all at the same store, over and over and over again? Yep, you guessed it- you’ve got yourself a doozy of a style rut.
Now some people might say “Well that don’t matter, that’s just my style!” Wrong. Unless your style is predictability or robot-chique, wearing the same stuff all the time isn’t your style. Other people might say “Well that don’t matter because what difference does it make if I wear the same things all the time?” Actually, fictional grammatically-challenged person, it makes a lot of difference. Psychology is a fascinating subject, and it tells us that without visually stimulating your mind in the way of your personal style, you’re subconsciously telling yourself that you are boring, your life is monotonous and stagnant- heck, after a while, wearing the same pieces can even make you feel unclean because it doesn’t even look like you do laundry! Or you can risk actually wearing the same thing more than once in a row and enjoy the inner anguish that comes with it. Or in my case, you wear the same outfit the next time you see your date and he wonders aloud whether you wore that last time and you make up elaborate differences between the two to cover your tracks. And he doesn’t buy it. He’s now my boyfriend of four years, but others have not been so lucky… or so cunning.
In conclusion, style ruts are bad and inexcusable. Final word. But they can be avoided. But how do you know that you’re in one? Here are five ways that you can tell:
- 50% of your wardrobe (or more) is the same colour (that includes shades of the same colour)
- You own exact multiples of items that aren’t basics
- You only own basics
- You’ve had all of the items in your wardrobe for over a year
- There are pictures that exist of you at three separate events and it looks like you’re wearing the same thing (or you’re actually wearing the same thing)
Are you guilty of any or all of these? For shame! But like God, I am very forgiving- so much so in fact that I can and will give you the tools to dig your way out of all of these blah-blah blunders.
So 50% or more of your wardrobe is the same colour? No big deal! Dust off anything metallic to add contrast without choosing a bland neutral, and go pick up accessories and layering pieces in complimentary colours to make you love your signature hue even more and in a brand new way!
You own exact multiples of items that aren’t basics? Well that’s alright. If for example, you took my excellent advice and bought multiples of a dress that looks fabulous on you, then that’s not an issue, because you’ll just wear one until it wears out and then wear the next one, providing it fits, right? But if you have 10 brown blouses and 5 straight leg khakis and you wear 1 blouse and 1 pair while the others are in the wash, then you have rut written all over you. Be honest and get rid of what you really don’t need and then be creative and wear those favourites with some other things you own.
You only own basics? Come on now, I should have to explain this one. Read some magazines and watch some movies to get inspired, then get your tush to the mall and get your fash on!
Had all of the items in your wardrobe for over a year? Oh dear. This is a trickier rut where it looks like you’re one of those people (such as myself) who has a hard time letting go of things. And that’s perfectly fine- you are allowed to like things. But don’t you think that you can choose new things that are still good for you and your body and you like them that aren’t a blast from the past? Say it with me: you can.
And how about all of those pictures of you in the same outfit? Accept your fashion blunders, forgive yourself and move on. So you like that outfit, but you’re wearing it all the time, to every single event. Why don’t you take elements of what you like about that outfit and translate that into something new? Like instead of a brown chiffon blouse, choose a minimalistic brown leather sleeveless top . Instead of preppy khakis, tie a cardigan around your shoulders. You have options, so there’s no more excuses!
And there you have it- L.’s Effective Guide to Escaping the Rut-erverse. No more three letter words for us! Except “AAH!” for super scary things. Like mesh tank tops.
Have you recently got out of a style rut and want to share your story? Still in a style rut and need even more of a hand getting out? Do you have a ph.D in Mircobiology? Let me know all this and more at l.twentiesproject@gmail.com!