Hello there dear Twenties-type people!
Today we have a real treat for you. We’re pleased to announce that for the first time ever, The Twenties Project will be featuring a guest blogger. C is an old high school friend of the team and she’s getting married October of this year. She wrote a great piece on her own blog about her different views on getting married and we’re so proud to be re-posting it here. Take it away, C!
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I Am an Off-Beat Bride
I am an offbeat bride!
What does that mean? That my vision of my perfect wedding doesn’t mesh with the fairytale vision the Disney movies have portrayed. I never thought of myself as a princess and never dreamed of being one. (I missed the memo on every girls dream I guess!) The only princess quality I liked was that when they would spin, their dresses swooshed up and around; it made me giggle.
It means I probably won’t have real flowers, partially because I’m allergic and partially because I want to carry something that more closely reflects my funky, oddball self that I can carefully hand craft in the company of friends and a good bottle of Girl’s Night Out wine.
It means that I chose 6 bridesmaids because those girls are close to me in my life and I can’t pick between them, whereas Josh has only chosen 4 groomsmen. Does it match? No. Does it matter? No. Will the girls wear the same matching dress? No, they are all very different women with entirely different personalities, of entirely different ages and sizes. I chose them because of these differences so why would I want them to now conform and be all the same. Is this typical? No. Does it matter? No.
It means we have chosen 2 ring bearers and 2 flower girls. Why? Because we LOVE all our nieces and nephews like crazy and can’t possibly consider not involving a single one of them. They all make us smile and laugh like crazy and we can’t imagine not having them a part of our big day.
Our wedding cake will more likely have gravestones than flowers on it. Is it normal? Not really, but to us it shows our feelings vision of “Til death do us part” a little more accurately.
Will my dress be a typical wedding gown with lace/ beading/ poofyness? NO. Will it be beautiful? YES, because I’ll be wearing it and Josh thinks I’m beautiful in PJs or sweatpants so he’s going to think I’m beyond gorgeous all dressed up. My mom and dad will see me as beautiful because they do no matter what. My friends will know I’ve chosen a dress that reflects me & who I am and what I see as MY wedding dress. I’ll be wearing a huge smile with it because I’ll have chosen something I love so they’ll see that as beautiful because happiness is beautiful to those who truly love you.
Will our wedding be extravagant and costly? Absolutely not- we don’t have that kind of money! Will it be everything we dream of? Yes, because we’ll have chosen the things, music, activities and people we wished to be a part of it!
Will it be fun? Yes! Because those who have had the patience to wait through our lengthy engagement will be a part of a day in which we understand is “about us” but we want everyone else to enjoy too!
There will be aspects of a typical wedding in our day with dashes of our quirkiness, fun and humour in it.
What everyone should understand is that Josh and I don’t see a wedding as something that has to cost a lot of money to be important or show our love for one another. We plan on being together forever and knew this when we met, if not then certainly by the time we moved in together 4 years ago. The people we involve in our lives mean the world to us and they should all know how important we are to one another. We’re oddballs who like Monster trucks, Muppets, decorate like crazy for holidays like Halloween and Christmas, we both love babies and dogs. I still have stuffed animals and puppets, Josh still goes crazy for Lego and Monster truck toys! We are eccentric and our wedding will reflect this and will show those we love our commitment and love for one another, it will be evident that we support each other for everything. We love one another because of our flaws and not despite them. We love to laugh and aren’t too proud to laugh at ourselves.
We are touched so many people care about us and are interested in what we’re doing for our wedding, it’s taking us a bit of time to plan in because we’ve had some speed bumps along the road but we promise it’s coming and we’ll try to make as many of you a part of it as we can. Please embrace the fact we’re different- after all you’re probably friends with us because of that.
<3 C
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